Saturday, September 6, 2008

Bedspace

I was awakened in the middle of the night (at 2:00 am) the other day by my two boys. Turned out the eldest chopped, as in, karate chopped the second one's leg just because of bed space. You see, my second one sleeps like a worm and feels like a whole room is his entire bed while the eldest sleeps like a log. It happened that the second one encroached on the eldest one's side of the bed and was irritated no end by the second one's foot hanging everywhere. (i had them share a bed just so the second one will learn how to sleep "quietly"). In retaliation, the second one pushed the eldest and shouted and in the process almost awakened the entire house with his indiscriminate shouting. I scolded the eldest one by the manner by which he woke up his younger brother and sent him to another room in the house to sleep. The following morning before going to school, I told him that we'll be having a talk after lunch. During our conversation, I taught him a thing about respect. It has been a rule in our house not to do unto others, what you don't like others to do unto you (did i get that right?). so i told him to never wake up a person, moreso his brother, that way again. That he should respect anyone who is sleeping even if that person snores, kicks, sleepwalks, talks, etc. I likewise told him that if it were the other way around, I bet he would have done something more drastic. In situations like this, I always make it a point to have them view things the other way around so they can get a feel of hows it like to be on the other end of a situation. He understood what I was saying and later on apologized to his younger brother.

Children do have different personalities and attitudes, we parents sometimes are at a loss on how to handle them. I just wish things are a lot easier to explain to our kids about certain things but sometimes i find it too hard and complicated to simplify things to them especially for questions that even an adult would find hard to answer. Parenting nowadays is really a struggle... a struggle to find the answers to our kids never ending questions, struggle to correct their bad behavior and struggle to keep our nerves at the end of a very tiring day. Yet, on the other hand, these little angels would sometimes, if not most of the time, light up our dark days, would welcome you home at the end of a horrible day and would still love you even if you are the meanest, grouchiest parent in the world. Haaaaaaaaay naku! I think i will have to put them on seperate beds from now on. HAPPY PARENTING TO ALL.

3 comments:

Pinay WAHM said...

Hi Bong....

Thanks a lot for always dropping by my blog kahit ako ay AWOL...MIA...at kung ano ano pa...haha.

I loved reading this entry kasi it painted a very realistic picture...and I like the way you put things into perspective in explaining to your son what you want to convey....and yes, the golden rule is always a good way to go.

Enjoy your weekend....and here's hoping no more 'karate chopping' in your house....which I kinda' doubt since you have to boys....LOL...

the busy bee..

Juliana

Lalaine said...

Hahhaa! nice post kuya!!

I'm already experiencing a bit of this and I'm sure more will come as Tricia and Lyle grows up..heheh!

momzeebitz said...

Having 2 boys myself, I also have my referee moments in our home arena. Just the other night, they went crazy over one, same toy, and none wanted to give way. So I kept the toy and told them that unless they will take turns, neither could get hold of that toy again. Good thing they compromised, and even slept together with the toy in between...

It’s nice to read a lesson-filled post coming from a dad's perspective. As long as dad consistently and patiently guide his boys of what is good, they will grow up respectful and upright...

Keep it up dad! Hurray to you!